He and my dad had a disagreement
Then my mum and I had a disagreement about how to resolve the first disagreement
Then we reconciled over costco chicken
Dear Therapist: The beauty of balancing the equation is that the mere act of doing so moves you from feeling helpless to claiming agency. You might get more open communication and greater respect and appreciation, or you might not—but you will definitely get less resentment, because your side of the equation is completely under your control